You can’t fix a narcissist

But you can fix the damage they leave behind.

Author

Abdulmuiz Sulayman
May 28, 2025

What You’ll Gain:

  • A powerful mindset shift to protect your emotional energy

  • Subtle signs you’re dealing with someone who’s emotionally manipulative

  • A reframed way to view “walking away” — not as weakness, but strength

  • A practical step to begin healing and reclaiming your clarity

  • One tool to help you stay grounded when detaching feels hard

Some people drain you without ever raising their voice.
They twist your words, make you question your memory, and disguise control as care.
And yet... you keep trying to “fix” the relationship.
Maybe if you communicate better. Maybe if you're more understanding.
Maybe if you just give it one more shot.

Sound familiar?

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Narcissists aren’t always the loudest in the room.
Sometimes, they’re the charming ones, the ones everyone thinks are incredible—until you’re alone with them.
They’re experts at micro-manipulations:
— “You’re too sensitive”
— “You’re overthinking”
— “You’re the one who’s hard to deal with”

You spend days wondering if you are the problem.
You read books, go to therapy, try harder—because maybe, just maybe, they’ll change.

But here’s the truth:
You can’t fix a narcissist.
You can only fix yourself—by walking away.

That’s not giving up. That’s getting free.

It’s not just about leaving them physically.
It’s about detaching mentally.
Reclaiming your identity.
Letting go of the guilt they trained you to carry.

That process takes time.
And clarity.
And tools.

Conclusion

If this hit close to home, I want you to know: you're not alone.
It’s not too late to reset your focus, protect your energy, and build the mental clarity that gets hijacked in toxic dynamics.

I created FocusFlow for moments like this.
It’s a digital companion to help you ground yourself, block out emotional noise, and reconnect with you again.
You can check it out here — it might be the calm anchor you’ve been needing:
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Here’s to quiet clarity,
— Abdulmuiz Sulayman (Founder of Mental Health Guild)